Relationship in Academic Curriculum

Do you think it is necessary to include a relationship curriculum in our academy? Why is it useful to know about relationships in broad? According to the article, “Relationship 101”, students are found to be more liable to learn about the internal relationship than the physical relationship. As physical education has already been included in schools, adolescents are more aware of how conscious they need to be regarding physical relationship. On the other hand, they are naive in handling relationship problems. They do not get advice on how to handle a relationship when it degenerates. Many students are found to have keen interest on learning how to handle their relationship.

Marline Pearson, a sociologist who teaches Couples’ Relationships at Madison Area Technical College in Madison, Wisconsin, is working to start a curriculum regarding relationship for high school students. According to her, not only the undergraduate students are affected by it, but also the high school students are having problems in understanding their relationship status. The youth of today are affected by the conditions of their ruining relationships the most. Due to the degrading relationships in the couples, they are vulnerable to serious problems like depression, frustration, as well as stress and anxiety. The effects of these problems can lead the youth to critical situations such as their interest in different fields may degrade. Similarly, the concentration on studies may decline when a person keeps on thinking about his ruining relationships. The relationship curriculum does not only teach about the issues of straight relationships but also that of homosexual relationships, which is a big problem among many youths who can’t share this situation with others. Furthermore, it is also seen that some of the students learning the course are able to save their ruining relationship.

In my view, it is necessary for every student to gain knowledge regarding relationships and it will be great if the relationship curriculum is acclimatized in school because school students are most susceptible getting mentally tortured by a ruining relationship as they experience it for the first time in the school days. In addition, many people, whether they be adolescents or adults, when they face problems arising in their relationships, they seek advice from their peers, who are not expert, on knowing about handling relationships. Thus, if the relationship curriculum is permitted in academics, many people will be able to manage their relationship status and help themselves.

Response to “Relationships 101”

“Oh! Are you MAD?? How do you expect that love can be learned?!!!? What a terrible thinking!!” I know some of you may retort me in this way if I tell you love can be learned!! It will be more accurate if I say love is a natural emotion which we have by born, but it will never be expressed if we do not know how it can be expressed. I get to know this from “Relationships 101”, an article from TIME, shows that how love can be taught in classroom as a formal course, but in informal way! It is very interesting to know, right?

Really I thrilled by reading such an article about which I never think that love can be taught in classroom! This article is about relationship counseling. It also introduces the readers with a new idea of teaching about couple relationships which is run by Marline Pearson, who is a sociologist. She teaches it in a formal setup which is really a new initiative for those people who suffers “relationship problem”. In newspaper I often see that there is a column for advising people who face problem in their relationships. I read and think how much complex it can be to handle and keep a healthy and perfect relationship. In our personal life we also often have same kind of problems, but we do not know how we can overcome these problems without hurting anyone by going in a sensible way. If we know the tactics of managing smooth relationship it will be easier for us to handle it.

I know there is debate that love cannot be taught. Maybe it is true, but is it always true? If we do not see any person to love and care for us then how can we learn that what is “love”? It is probably ridiculous to think in that way expressing love can be taught in the classroom. However, if we do not know how we can perfectly express our loving feeling, so how can others know about our emotions? Do they ever realize we have “love” for them? I think Pearson’s course is very significant in that sense. There is no any smooth way to go through a relation. Often we encounter with several problems in the path of a relationship. It is more important to know how we express our love, how we can go through our problems, and how we can balance between emotion and reality in a relationship. Formal relationship counseling can give us the support to seek the answers of our questions, and make us to realize that, “Oh! Yes, love can be taught in a classroom!”

Relationships

True love…true love…true love…Is there such a thing called true love? The reason why I am asking this question is that through what i observe around me, I can see that there are many husbands and wives getting divorced and many boyfriends and girlfriends breaking up. Why does it happen?

Well, most people have the illusion of perfect love based on the ideas depicted in the fairy tales and movies with happy endings. For instance, the story of Romeo and Juliet is widely considered as the epitome of true love. Usually, the love portrayed in movies and fairy tales are idealistic. However, from my point of view, I feel that being humans, desiring for such kind of love is just desire that can’t be achieved. Everybody yearns for the intimate affection that someone can give them. Women dream of their Prince Charming to come and ask for her hand, whereas men always search for the love of their life. However, staying together always results into some misunderstandings. And a person has to work hard to solve the misunderstanding or their love would disappear in the air. Most people seems to say the three words “I Love You” but when it comes to problems, many of them appears to be too ignorant and let their love diminish. Can this be true love? Why can’t those people think carefully and realize the value of their shared love? Can they simply let it to happen? In this way, I feel this isn’t true love. If you really love someone, you can’t imagine of leaving that person no matter what happens between them. They should try their best to overcome every conflict to sustain their relationship. Also, from my perspective, I think true love is when someone loves you for what you are, not for what you have or possess. Seriously speaking, I don’t like when people expresses love in a romantic poetries. I always find some faults behind it. Moreover, it sounds very corny and banal and I don’t consider it as true love. For instance, in the chapter “Waiting between the trees” of the novel The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan, Ying Ying’s husband expresses his love in a very romantic poetry which made her love him so deeply. He said, “You have tiger eyes. They gather fire in the day. At night they shine golden.”(280) However, she was betrayed and he left her with his child implanted in her womb. Therefore, I would say that true love is something that is very rare to exist in this realistic world.

Preference to Relationships 101

People have their own interpretations of love. Some people define love as a feeling, which is divine and limitless, while others think that love is a process that can be learnt in our family and society. However, have you ever thought, can love be taught in a classroom? After reading, “Relationships 101,” an article published in the Time Magazine in 2003, you can figure out whether love can be learned in a class or not.

This article is named after a course called “Relationship 101” that deals with the problems in the relations between men and women and provides prudent solutions to those problems. I think having these kinds of courses can help people to choose a compatible life partner. In the contemporary world, love has just become a fashion. Most of the teenagers in their school life are involved in relationships. They address one another as boyfriends or girlfriends. Being in relation is not bad, but being in an immature relationship might be problematic. In immature relationships, youths are more likely to date and have unsafe sex. Moreover, they will have more concentration in love than in studies, which might harm their education. Later, they begin to feel bore with one another and start to find defects in their partners which gradually changes their love into animosity. Nevertheless, they are unaware of the upcoming problems. Pre-marital sex can bring health as well as social problems to the youths in conservative societies, where morals about marriage and sex are absolute. Consequently, school drop-outs, abortion and suicide cases will be predominant where relationships between couples are weak and vulnerable. These hindrances are because of naïve love among the youths who think that love means staying together and dating each other several times.

Therefore, to avoid these problems courses like “Relationships 101” should be encouraged. They not only help youths to develop communication skills but also provide immense education on sex. These courses are flexible regarding gender roles and highly contrasting to the conservative values about pre-marital sex. Moreover, these courses teach us to be realistic rather than to be too optimistic in a relationship. In other words, these courses help individuals to know his or her standards and boundaries that help them to choose a suitable and understanding partner with whom they can live a happy life. Thus, this may increase better understandings about love, marriage, and relationships among individuals that may decrease problems resulted by vulnerable relationships.

Are you taking this course then?