Emotion or Logic?

How can one live a life compressing the instinct desires with logics and responsibilities? Can we consider Hema and Kaushik as successful professionals despite the fact that they both failed to fulfill their common emotional needs? Is it appropriate to consider them independent when they always relied on their logics to rule their emotions?

The emotional failure of Hema and Kaushik clearly appeared before my eyes while I read the chapter “Going Ashore”. Hema, who had desperately wanted Kaushik since her childhood, couldn’t put enough effort to give their relation a definite shape. Her logics related to Navin and her job in Massachusetts averted her from accompanying Kaushik to Hong Kong. Her emotional need for Kaushik’s love was squeezed with her logics. On the other hand, Kaushik couldn’t convert himself on the way his emotion transformed towards Hema. He places his career (waiting in Hong Kong) before his emotional attachment to Hema. Hema too didn’t find it logical to abandon Navin and sacrifice her job just to live with Kaushik. In contrast to Hema, Kaushik cannot find logical reasons to go to Hong Kong except for his stable work place.

I strongly disagree the way both Hema and Kaushik made their decisions suppressing their emotions. They could have made a way out if they had let their emotions guide their decisions. They both loved each other and wanted their company for rest of their life. So what hindered them? Their logics separated themselves from their true selves. The term “serious” to represent adults in the novella The Little Prince grasped my attention here. Both Hema and Kaushik tempted to disguise themselves as “serious people” trying to show their maturity. If maturity comes at the cost of emotion, then why need maturity? Humans are emotional being, and if emotion has to be slaughtered for maturity, can we claim ourselves human?

Despite all disagreements, I apologize to condemn that I secretly admire the way Hema and Kaushik reacted. They both came nearer at some point of life and then made their own way out. I think they wouldn’t have missed one another as much if they had heard the call of their heart (emotions) than their mind (logics) and acted accordingly. Many unspoken words are sweeter than the spoken words. In Hema and Kaushik’s case, their unfulfilled emotion grew deeper and more passionate in their departure which might have faded away if it had been fulfilled.

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Response to “Going Ashore”

After reading “Going Ashore”, I was left astonished. The first question that arose on my mind was – “Why is the ending this way?” As I started to analyze this story from different points of view I got stuck with lots of questions on my mind. Honestly, I didn’t become successful to get myself involved through the phases of the story. I didn’t find this story much meaningful or convincing to me. All the occurrences in this story made me ask myself- “so what? What does it matter?” From one point that Hema didn’t marry or stayed with Kaushik, I felt good or happy. For those, who only know how to give order instead of being responsible for others- it’s good not to prefer to those kind of people who leave you independent and never tries to bind you. On the other hand, life of Kaushik and Hema had been portrayed in such a way that it made me feel confused and the problems they were facing, totally seemed like a drama to me. It was not successful enough to attract me into its essence and make me feel as I am also living in this story. Each character were living their own life, being apart from their near and dear ones. So how does this story reflect the importance of family? What I understood from this story is that, wife is only needed to take care of husband and to make love. (From Kaushik’s father’s example) It’s only the loneliness of people that brings two bodies together and makes them one. But when they realize that they have already someone waiting for them they get separated. Even though they love each other, one wrong way of approaching finishes everything in relationship. (From the relationship status between Kaushik and Hema) For me it’s not like that. If we love someone, it is forever and company is not needed only to make love. It’s needed to share our lives in every step we make. I totally disagree to the idea which I got from this story. May be it’s my weakness not to get what it wants to convey or I don’t want to see it- either way, I didn’t get attached with the feelings here. I guess the story would have been better if the ending was with the reunion of kaushik and family. Moreover, part of Navin was also not focused even though he played a vital role indirectly in changing the decision of Hema and compelled her to compare Navin and Kaushik. Overall I found this story unsatisfactory.

Jyoti