The power of a Mother

                When I read the chapter “Four Directions” of the novel The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan, I am surprised of the power of a mother. Waverly describes thoroughly about her mother’s contributions in her entire life. For her whole life she thought her mother as her enemy, and she accused her mother of her bad luck. When she used to play chess, her mother liked to show off her to the people. Waverly couldn’t accept that, and she thought that her mother claimed all credits of her winning in the chess. In order to hurt her mother she gave up some chess matches, but her mother was quite indifferent to her. Later, when Waverly had decided to play chess again, she lost her talent for playing chess. Waverly realized that one secret of her talent was her mother’s love and support. When she lost it, she lost her talent too. Again, Waverly says about her first husband Marvin whom her mother used to criticize all the time. Later, Waverly divorced him, and she believed that her mother’s constant criticism towards her husband destroyed her marriage. She wanted to marry her boyfriend Rich, and she was afraid of her mother that if her mother disliked him. When she went to tell her mother the news of her marriage, she realized the most crucial truth of her life. She realized that she had always blamed her mother for her misfortune, but her mother was the one who always wished good luck for her life.

            The whole story describes how a mother’s love, support, blessing and blame influence one’s life. I know the truth why Waverly failed in the chess. I know how strong the power of a mother is. This story reminds me some moments about my mother. I noticed that whenever I disobeyed my mother, I failed in my exam. I learned about this power of mothers from my religion Islam. According to my religion, “if your any kind of behavior hurts your mother, you will suffer in the long run.” Waverly hurt her mother by neglecting chess game and married a man whom her mother didn’t like, so she suffered for all of these faults. Finally, I want to share a story about my mother and my eldest sister.

             Once my eldest sister was going to face a job interview, but before going for the interview she didn’t touch my mother’s feet. According to our culture, it’s mandatory to touch elder’s feet asking their blessings before leaving home for any good purpose. My sister didn’t get the job, and my mother said to me, “I knew she would not get the job. She didn’t ask for my blessings, and she just ignored me. However, I prayed for my daughter, but Allah’s punishment is always obvious.” I was so surprised that I told everything to my sister, and she asked for her forgiveness. Later, surprisingly, my sister got the same job. How strange!

            In conclusion, my request to all of my friends- please, never heart your mother. Although they scold you, their love and blessings are always with you!

response to “Four Directions”

The chapter “Four Direction” in the novel The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan first evoked anger in me. How could Waverly Jong misunderstand her mother for a long time? When she won the chess games, her mother was so proud of her and wanted to share with other, she got angry; however, when her mother altered to not bother her, for her sake, Waverly thought it was her mother’s punishment, which she considered to be worse than quarrels. Instead of seeing her mother’s kindness, she conceived it in a different way. She thought her mother didn’t like Rick because she changed their topic talking about her husband’s disease, whereas her mother just wanted to focus on the more important thing. That her tears fell down as she knew her own daughter had always thought bad thing about her made me upset, furious, and regretful. But then, I released when she finally realized her mother’s altruism.

Through their relationship, I saw the respectfulness of altruism of parenthood. Even when her daughter disobeyed her and even yelled at her when she showed her off, Lindo always supported her. She had known that Waverly got married to Rich, the person that Waverly thought her mother hated. Indeed, even though Lindo didn’t say anything, she still agreed with her daughter’s decisions such as choosing Rich as her husband. I remembered my mother’s image through Lindo. My mother is a reserve person, so she didn’t often express her emotions. She would ask me to do something if it was really necessary and good for me. She would think about her children before she thought about herself. Once before her birthday, I asked her what she gift she wanted me to give her. Yet she said she wanted us, her children, to live well.

I also think about myself. Do I have right to feel angry with Waverly as I did? Did I understand clearly what my mother had taught me? As her daughter, did I care for her enough? “No,” I answered myself. I was also a selfish daughter, and I couldn’t realize it before, like Waverly. Sometimes, even though I knew my mother’s desires, but I didn’t try to make her happy. Now, I feel so remorseful about it. I wanted to be like Waverly, who could correct her faults later. If I live with her, I obey and to care for her more.