Embarrassing Mothers

When I read the story “Double Face” by Amy Tan, I felt pity for Lindo Jong. Waverly was talking to her in front of the hairstylist like Lindo was a deaf or couldn’t understand English. Lindo was feeling ashamed of herself that her old-fashioned appearance was embarrassing her daughter. It is true that sometime our parent’s behavior or appearance embarrasses us in front of our friends, but it’s not fair to behave with them like they are worthless. We can just avoid or overlook the situation when they embarrass us in front of others. Lindo smiled back to Waverly when she talked with her like she is a frail old lady. Actually, she was ashamed of herself, and to hide that she just used her American face, so that her daughter didn’t understand her feeling.  So, it means that though Waverly was Lindo’s daughter, she didn’t understand her mother. Again, she was blaming herself for that because she was not able to raise Waverly properly. Sometimes, parents’ upbringing is responsible for a child’s this kind of rude behavior. So, it is better to teach children how to respect their parents at an early age.

The story reminded me of one incident when I paid a visit to one of my friends home. Normally my friend was very soft-spoken and polite to us. Suddenly, her mother came to serve us snacks and talked with us a little bit. While talking with us she commented about something that was not plausible. Suddenly my friend got angry and shouted loudly at her mother. I was shocked at her this kind of behavior which was totally unexpected. I can’t even think about talking to my mother like that. I don’t know how her mother felt at that time, but I really felt it embarrassing. I left her home right after that.

Fortunately, I have never faced this kind of situation. On the contrary, my parents intentionally want to embarrass me in front of my friends because of the mass I create in my bedroom. Nothing in my room is placed orderly. That’s why when my friends come to visit me, my mother shows them my bedroom and wants to embarrass me. Then instead of embarrassment I grin so widely as if it’s a credit to make a bedroom mass. So, the trick of my mother to make me organized doesn’t work at all and my bedroom continues to be a mass. 😀

I am sorry, Mom!!!

Do you discern the disagreement in the chapter “Double Face”? Waverly wanted to be a Chinese because of fashion. However, she tried to change her mother’s appearance, which expressed clearly Chinese attributes, into a Western one. She did not know that these thoughts accidentally hurt her mother’s feelings. “I am ashamed she is ashamed. Because she is my daughter and I am proud of her, and I am her mother but she is not proud of me,” Lindo Jong said. Waverly endeavored to escape from her mother; she tried to conceal her mother’s conservative appearance. However, at the end of the chapter, Waverly attested to the truth that she was alike her mother, especially her crooked nose. Let’s remember the previous chapters to see how Lindo took pride in her daughter. She acclaimed Waverly about her ability to play chess everywhere she went, which made Waverly get indignant because she thought that her mother liked to show off.

Reading the chapter, I felt bitterly remorse. Like Waverly, I used to be indifferent to my mother; indeed, I never tried to understand her feelings, whereas I always wanted her to understand mine. I talked about freedom of an American teenager whenever she coerced me to do or not to do something. I murmured about Confusion’s theories about humane mothers whenever she gave me reprimands. I compared my friend’s mother, who was modern and lenient, with her whenever she forced me to wear old-fashioned dresses. To be candid, I even wished not to be her daughter because she was so conservative. Every time my school held meetings with students’ parents, I made many excuses so that she did not have to be present: my mother was sick; she had to look after my brother; she went to her relatives’ houses. In addition, I was so innocent that I never wondered if she realized my shame of her. However, she has changed a lot since she became a shopkeeper: her hair had a short style, which was modern in these days, rather than her long “the Great Wall” one; her dresses were fashionable styles rather than old-fashioned ones as she used to wear. I was surprised. I got indignant. Why did she waste money on unnecessary things? Why did she fret too much about herself? Worse than Waverly, I was jealous of my mother. How bad I was! I was never satisfied with my mother; indeed, I always tried to decipher her faults. Now, I want to apologize to her; I want to hug her and express my love. Is it too late to do these things?