How Does the Feeling of Discrimination Emerge?

    Arthur Miller’s play the “Death of a Salesman” presents a family of the 1930s where the members struggle to increase the income of their family so as to live a comfortable life. Willy and his wife, Linda, have two sons: Happy and Biff. Willy appreciates Biff for his popularity as he is well known football player. Willy always encourages Biff and bear positive thoughts about his son’s future. His attention towards Biff made Happy keep doing things in order to grab his father’s attention. This known or unknown negligence of Willy compels Happy to remain indifferent about his father’s condition and life. I have seen such behaviors or differences created between siblings and their parents in many families.

 For an instance, my aunt has two sons — one is older than me and the other is younger. My elder brother is an extrovert; on the other hand, my younger brother is an introvert. As my elder brother has been sociable since his childhood, my aunt shares all family matters with him. However, my younger brother never responded to what was said when he was young. My aunt’s greater focus on my elder brother has made my younger brother feel that he is being avoided by his mother. I wonder, is it my aunt who is discriminating between her sons or is it my brother who is feeling discriminated against? My aunt feels that her younger son doesn’t enjoy talking or listening about family matters for he is very reserved by nature. However, my younger brother feels that he should be informed about everything which is informed to his older brother being a part of the family. The only difference is he will speak only if some important idea or feeling needs to be expressed. Now, my younger brother is 20 years old and he is completely unconcerned about what is going on in his family the same as Happy turned out at the end of the play. I feel that parents tend to get inclined to the one who is followings their principles. In the play, Biff, was more prioritized than Happy was. Willy always believed that being well known is a part of success.  Likewise, my aunt prefers to elicit responses to what she says, so she shares with her elder son. I don’t think this is discrimination; however, parents should always be concerned about their children’s feelings though they are not moving along the path they prefer.

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Willy’s Suicide Note!

Dear Linda, Biff, and Happy,

When you are reading this note, I am far away from you forever. Before leaving from this cruel world, I would like to tell you something that I never told you before, and for my whole life, I had been feeling guilty for that.

Sweetheart Linda,

I don’t know how I can express my love, my gratitude to you. You are the one who was always by my side during my rainy days. Our family was surrounded with a circle made of your love and affection.  Perhaps, to you, I was innocent like an angel. The way you loved me could only be compared to the way people worship the god. But…….oh poor Linda! I can’t tell you……but I’ve to …..darling, please stop crying for this stupid husband who betrayed with your innocent love. Believe me, I am not the god whom you worshipped. I am a devil, Linda! Yes, I am! You don’t know, I had an extra marital affair with a woman, and I used to give her stockings when you had to mend your own stockings. Oh Linda! I deceived with you! Can you forgive me, Linda? I couldn’t bring material success for my family; my whole life was an empty vessel- full of self-deception and false pride. I couldn’t lead this vain life anymore, so I made the decision of committing suicide. After my death, you’ll get the insurance money, and Biff can begin his own business with that amount. I hope that will be enough for you to lead a solvent life. Take care of yourself and my sons, darling. May Jesus take care of you. Bye.

Your Willy

Biff, my son,

I know you hate me very much. I always treated badly with you, but Biff, this is not the character of a father. You never tried to understand my love for you. I always insulted you for your failure to be a successful person because I wanted my son to be the best in the society. I wanted you to be famous, Biff. I know how much I hurt you by cheating with your mother. I am guilty for that, Biff. Can you please forgive me, Biff? I was responsible for your life, wasn’t I? How frustrating it was seeing my own son destroying his life for only my faults! Now, Biff, your pop has made a good decision. I destroyed your spirit, and I am giving you another spirit sacrificing my own life. After my death you’ll get the insurance money. Please, use the money to begin your own business. Take care of your mom and Happy. May you be successful in your life. Bye.

Your Pop

Happy, my boy,

I admit that I was indifferent to you, and I was always more concerned about Biff than you. Do you know why? Because I knew if Biff could be a famous man, he would never abandon you. I believed he would also make your life successful. Now, your pop is leaving you forever, but Happy, do obey your brother Biff, and never hurt your mother. May Jesus bless all of you. Bye.

Your pop

What Happen to a Dream Deferred?

I have never really thought about how desperately I want my
dreams to be true or how necessary it is for me to fulfill my every dream. The
only one thing I knew and care about is that I love to dream and it is what
makes my life beautiful and meaningful.

 

However, while reading the poem “A Dream Deferred” by Langston
Hughes, I have started to ponder about my own dreams and what has happened to
them as I delayed them. I asked myself, “What happened to my dreams deferred?”
Are they now rotten and died? Are they still filling me with same sensation
like before or they have just lost their appeal for me?

 

The answer I got is no. My dreams are neither rotten nor do
they stink. They are still as fresh and inspiring as they were before, in fact
even more. Therefore, I agree with the poet’s positive part about deferring
dreams.

 

Dreams are dreams until they don’t become a part of reality.
If every dream becomes true and real instantly than it won’t be a dream
anymore. It will no more have the same desire and appeal in our heart as it
usually has when we think about our dreams to become true. I have always
noticed one thing in our human attitude that no matter how desirable the thing
is as soon we get that it starts to lose its appeal for us. It is not different
for the dreams. As soon as we fulfill our one dream, the dream loses all of its
connections with our beautiful world of imagination because then it becomes a
part of our real life. Then we start to dream of other things to fulfill the
empty place in our world of imagination since it is the thing that motivates us
to struggle and go on in our life with hope.

 

We are human because have dreams and power of imagination.
Without dreams human life is nothing but a river with no direction to go. It is
our dreams that give us a direction to go, show us our way, and give us meaning
to be alive. Like the way a river flows to a certain direction with the hope
that one day it will be able to meet the sea, our deferred dreams propel us to
move forward in life with the hope to fulfill it someday. And that is what
makes life happier because the desire and imagination of fulfilling a dream is
more pleasant than reality of seeing it becoming true.

 

Therefore, I want to say that — when a dream deferred, it
becomes dry like raisin in sun that makes it sweeter than ever. When a dream
deferred, it becomes crust and sugar over like a syrupy sweet that enhance its
taste like never before.

Mr. Willy Loman

In the play “Death of a Salesman” by Arthur Miller, I really
love the character Willy Loman. He plays the role of a father to his two sons
Biff and Happy. At first, I had the thought that he was very dominating and exploiting
his masculine superiority over his passionate wife Linda. Moreover, he appeared
to be a person always complaining about everything. He complained about his
sons not having a proper vocation. He also seemed to be crazy and a very short
tempered man. He also had extra-marital affair besides his wife Linda. He
provided stockings to his mistress, whereas his wife used the old mended stockings.
Conversely, after having read the play, I came to realize that Willy was a very
concerned and dedicated father. Well, I can say that he was wrong for having
affair with another woman, but he felt guilty for what he had done.  Additionally, he got angry with his elder son
Biff because being a father; he was concerned about his child and his future. When
Biff wasn’t settled even at the age of thirty four worried Willy so much. As a
result, his affection and concerns turned into anger. One of the biggest things
he did was sacrificing his life for his family. Some says that committing
suicide was an act of being a coward, but I believe that he was not a coward. Death
is something that cannot be played with and everyone fear death. However, Willy
was very determined and strong enough to die for the benefit of his family. His
main intention was to get insurance for his death and let Biff become a
salesman.  We might think it was foolish
of him to commit suicide. He could have worked for Charley who offered him a job,
but his pride didn’t let him to accept the job. Most often, pride can lead us
to different way. Moreover, it was during the time of the Great Depression, so committing
suicide and getting insurance was the only way to fulfill his dream of making
Biff a salesman. After knowing the rationale behind his death, I really
appreciated him. His action showed how much he cared for his family. Now, my
image of Willy has completely changed from a proudly and wild man to a
dedicated and an ambitious man willing to face death in order to fulfill his
dreams and hopes.

Self Deception:True or False?

Reading the play “Death of a Salesman” by Arthur Miller, I discern the obsession of self deception
covers the whole life of the main characters, particularly Biff and Willy. In
the work, Willy and his son Biff often think that they have a good position in their
life, and everything around them is going to flow smoothly. Then, after
realizing the painful reality that he is not an officer but an ordinary worker,
Biff becomes so desperate and indignant (Miller 38). Self deception seems to be
a bad thing for the characters, but I think that it also has good affects
besides the negative attribute. In fact, it is only bad when we blindly abuse
it in our lives without consideration or limitation.

Indeed, we can exploit it when we face obstacles and hope something special happens. It
is just like a prompt to endorse us to persevere and move forward in our lives.
There is more than once when we have to trick ourselves to make our lives more
beautiful. For example, when we are in a bad mood, and we find everything appear
to be in a wrong path. I think in these cases, “Everything will be ok,” “I can
do this,” or “I will have a better choice tomorrow” are really useful. It seems
that the spiritual medicine is going to be so effective. Different from Biff,
we shouldn’t go far away from real life. However, it does not mean that we are completely
sure about what is going to happen. Besides filling our minds with such
optimistic ideas, we need to work hard and

Other people may disagree with me because they may think that thinking about the good side will
be prone to overwhelm us when the result is contradictory to what we
anticipate. Yet knowing that we have tried our best to do it, we will not feel
any regret because it is our effort. Certainly, we will not lose our will just
because of that; conversely, it is like an incentive to help us try more the following
times.

Nonetheless, I am a little skeptical about the idea that we can do everything we wish if we make
efforts. In fact, to accomplish what we expect to do, diligence is one of the
most indispensable factors including luckiness, knowledge, and chances. Yet I
prefer to believe that I will inevitably get betterment if I endeavor to
accomplish what I want.

Thu

The Anthropology of Manners

In the article “The Anthropology of Manners”, Edward T. Hall talks about the differences in time and proximity in various places. There is wide range of differences in conception of people of different places regarding the same manner. Sometimes, the concept of people of one place completely contradicts with the concept of other people of other place. For example, in Nepal, there are different concepts regarding the color of eyes, the habit of eating food, behavior with children, which may or may not valid to cultures of other places.

In Nepal, a child with blue colored eyes is considered as omen. It is said in Nepal that a person with blue colored eyes should not be trusted. They can betray people easily in any case. Especially, it is believed that women with blue colored eyes are more liable to cheat their husbands and family members. However, this concept is not valuable in western countries; in fact most of people in western countries possess blue eyes.

Similarly, in context of habit of eating, Newari people, one of the ethnic groups of Nepal believe that our plates should have some rice until we finish eating curry and other sweets. So, Newari people continuously serve rice to guests until they totally finish their curry and other sweets. This concept may not be valid to other cultures.

In a similar way, in Nepal, elders show love to their children by placing their hand on their children’s head. This behavior is especially termed as blessing. In contradictory, western people take this behavior as insult. They don’t want others to place hands on their head.

It is obvious that we can’t remember or know the culture of all places, and it is also certain that annoying behavior towards others’ culture make those people unpleasant. So, it is necessary to respect others’ point of view regarding manners keeping own view on own side at least after knowing the importance of these manners in their place. It will certainly help us to move ahead in our life being compatible with other members in society.

Relation between mother and daughter

In “joy luck club” we are reading about mothers and their daughters. Every mother has a past and a present. Though their relation is universal, mother and daughter, but there are differences among their relations. For example, Jing-Mey and Suyuan’s relation and An-mei and Rose’s relations are not equal. Similarly, Ani-mei and popo, Lindo and her mom, and Ying-Ying and her mom, all have own pattern, background and present limitation between their mother-daughter relation. When they the mothers were daughter, they also used to think about self interest, but after being mother they always think about their daughter. Moreover, they think their daughters will be mothers one day. So they are willing to teach them how to be a mother, how much patience is necessary and how to hide own pain when a daughter neglect her mother. In joy luck club, we see that every mother wants to be close to their daughters. Indeed, it’s universal that, a mother is the closest person of a daughter and a daughter is the closest person of a daughter. Though they have different life style, education, ideas, it’s the mother who gives power to her daughter to have a better life than her, and it’s the daughter who inspires her mother to live long in the world with dignity.

In our practical life, we also have different dimensions in our relations with our mothers. We all feel very close to our mothers, when they take care of us, fulfill our wish, inspire and help us to reach our goals. Sometimes we think, for my mom I’m living in the world. However, when they don’t allow us to do as our wish, give advice or force to do something, we really get angry. We daughters think that, mother’s duty is taking care of us. We don’t think they are also human being, they also have own life, own story and above all the right to express themselves. We occasionally think about their life’s struggle.

My dear friends, I talked a lot. But my purpose is to inspire you to think individually about your mother. Think that we are the future mother and we are determined to change the world. So if today we don’t care about our mothers, we won’t be cared by our children. If today we feel board to hear our mother, how can we hear from all mother and women cross earth in the future? So, we should think that everyone’s have a story which influences his/her behavior. If we remove today’s boring, we can win the future.

Accidental Answer to “What Is Love?”

After reading Pablo Neruda’s poem about love, I found many questions in my mind. I was confused about the meaning of love, because what I had heard and read about love was completely different from what Neruda had described in his poem. As a result of my confusion, I started surfing net to find the true and appealing meaning that can persuade me. I could not find anything to convince me. During this bewilderment, I opened my Facebook to have a break. After only a few minutes I received a message in my Facebook which surprised me. It was the thing that I was looking for, a poem about love! It was by Rumi (the famous persian poet1207-1273)! I could not believe my eyes! That accident made me look for the page that had sent the message. There, I found a beautiful video that encouraged me to share both the poem and the video.

Here you are the mesmerizing poem from a poet who was in love so that everything could remind him his dear beloved and would make him dance and sing. However, his beloved was not a human body but he was God.

Love is longing and longing, the pain of being parted;
No illness is rich enough for the distress of the heart,
A lover’s lament surpasses all other cries of pain.
Love is the royal threshold to God’s mystery.
The carnival of small affections and polite attachments
Which litter and consume our passing time
Is no match to Love which pulses behind this play.
It’s easy to talk endlessly about Love,
To live Love is to be seized by joy and bewilderment;
Love is not clear-minded, busy with images and argument.
Language is too precocious, too impudent, too sane
To stop the molten lava of Love which churns the blood,
This practicing energy burns the tongue to silence;
The knowing pen is disabled, servile paper
Shrivels in the fire of Love. Bald reason too is an ass
Explaining Love, deceived by spoilt lucidity.
Love is dangerous offering no consolation,

Only those who are ravaged by Love know Love,
The sun alone unveils the sun to those who have
The sense to receive the senseless and not turn away.
Cavernous shadows need the light to play but light
And light alone can lead you to the light alone.
Material shadows weigh down your vision with dross,
But the rising sun splits the ashen moon in empty half.
The outer sun is our daily miracle in timely
Birth and death, the inner sun
Dazzles the inner eye in a timeless space.
Our daily sun is but a working star in a galaxy of stars,
Our inner sun is One, the dancing nuance of eternal light.
You must be set alight by the inner sun,
You have to live your Love or else
You’ll only end in words.

~Mevlana Rumi

Translated by Raficq Abdulla

Work without love

Love makes everything perfect. Working with love means love your own work. Whatever you do, but do it with love that will help you to make your work inclusive. Everyone should love their work. Its consequences will remain during their whole life time. Similar to this, working without love also has an awful lifetime consequences. By giving a short anecdote this can be explained more specifically.

It is an anecdote about a boy who suffers most for not loving his works.

In childhood,

There was a boy who didn’t love studying. As a student, his first and foremost work was studying. He always procrastinated his homework. By doing this, he became lazy. Before the examination he never prepared his studies well. For this reason he always got poor marks. After that, he passed his school with poor grades.

In youth,

When the boy became a young man he needed to work. He did not want to work and didn’t appreciate all works. Though he had to support his livelihood, he started searching for jobs. For getting a job, he had to face a hard time; due to his preference and poor grades, he didn’t get a good job. After a long time he started working with a low salary and bed condition. Every day he went to work unwillingly. He didn’t love his work because it seemed tedious to him and during his work time he felt it doesn’t pass. Every day when he went to the job he starts counting minutes and hours for finishing his work time. He felt pressure on doing his works; therefore, his life became massy. Eventually, he can’t terminate his work properly and most probably every day his boss scolded him.

In age,

When he was in the age of sixties, he didn’t have the ability to work. He had to spend his time by remising what he should have done or shouldn’t have done in the past. He wished he would love his work and could make his live more meaningful.

According to the eminent writer Khalil Gibran, everyone should love their work. If anyone can love their work, then they can recognize love and know the meaning of time. They can enjoy their work time. However, no work is dire and all work should be appreciated. Moreover, working with love can help then to live a happy life and have nothing to remorse. So, I think work makes life meaningful, and everyone should love their work.

Response to “The Red Candle”

When I read the short story of Lindo Jong from the novel “The Joy Luck Club” by Amy Tan, I became surprised to read Lindo’s sacrificing life for keeping her parents’ promise.

In this story, in every passage I could feel how much it was hard for Lindo to lead her life by keeping reminding herself about the promise. It was really astonishing to feel how much obedient she was to keep her parents’ reputation. Like her, I am obedient too to keep my promise not only to my parents but also to others. When I was young, my parents told me not to do such deeds that would lessen their reputation in the society. So, whenever I do any activities, even now I ask myself whether my deeds will lessen or add to my parents’ status. When I get the answer from my mind that it won’t lessen their reputation, I do the actions. For example, when I was a child, my mother told me that our society didn’t appreciate a girl walking with a friend (male) in the street, or taking meal together in a general place. In my college, I had many friends (male & female). Once they proposed to go to a restaurant to eat fast food. As I remembered my promise, I didn’t go with them. I always try my best to keep my promise. For instance, I spent my childhood in a middle-east country named Oman. I had many friends in my school there. Two of them were very close to me. Therefore, when I was coming back to Bangladesh, we promised each other that when we would grow up, we would find one another. One year ago, I learned from newspaper that face book had become very popular among everybody and it is easy to find friends there. Although I didn’t like face book too much, I opened an account here to find my friends. As a result, I found them in face book and in this way I kept my promise.

In conclusion, may be to keep these promises I didn’t have to sacrifice my life like Lindo; however, I had to sacrifice some of my happiness to keep promises especially my parents’ promises. In the story, if I were Lindo, I would try my best to keep my parents’ promise. However, one day I might lose my temper and burst out forgetting all about my promises, or I might make a plan like Lindo to balance all sides and thus, enjoy freedom.