Migration: Leaving Everything Behind

Since one of the themes of The Joy Luck Club was migration, it would be a good idea to write a little about migration, “the movement of people across a specified boundary for the purpose of establishing a new or semi-permanent residence” (In depth Resource). This was an academic definition of migration. Many researches have been done about migrants and migration and their effects on globalization, economy and so on, but here I want you to know a little about the emotional aspect of migration.

Tired of being worried for a long time, the woman looks at her husband pleading:
: I’m sick of being alone for two years. I can’t see your vacant place at dinner again. You even were not here when our son was born. Last time after you left home, Hamid kept crying until night and he became sick for one month. Please, not this time. Don’t leave me here.
– So what do you say? I am tired of being far from you too. I am worried all the time that what are you doing here in this lonely place.
The next day, the husband comes excitedly to his wife.
– I have decided to take you with myself. Let’s go to Iran. We can be together and you can be more comfortable too.
In just a few days, the wife starts packing their bags. She is preparing for going to another country – to migrate. She gives many things away, her favorite dishes, her favorite clothes with embroideries that she had made by her hands and all the beautiful things that she had gathered. She was giving them away since she was going to somewhere else that was not like Afghansitan. People in Iran were not wearing what she used to; they did not like what she liked. In months, they are leaving their hometown, where they had been born and grown up, where they had learnt to talk and play. The woman, while leaving her village, is looking at the house which her son started to walk in. the man was looking at the yard and the trees that he had planted, they were young and green. Shedding tears, both of them leave their home and wish to have a good life in Iran, to be together.
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After twenty years, they are all together, the man, the woman and their children. They are together but something is left behind – their country, nationality and memories. The children have finished school. They have learnt to say Madar to their Abay (mother), to wear dark and gray clothes instead of the bright pink and yellow clothes. They are almost Iranian when they decide to return. All are excited to see Afghanistan again. They start packing their bags again. They had been looking for finding dresses to look like what they could remember from Afghanistan. Leaving another home behind, they reach to their dream country, but they find themselves in another world. Everything has changed since twenty years ago and now they wonder how they can adapt another environment!

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Response to “Relationships 101”

“Oh! Are you MAD?? How do you expect that love can be learned?!!!? What a terrible thinking!!” I know some of you may retort me in this way if I tell you love can be learned!! It will be more accurate if I say love is a natural emotion which we have by born, but it will never be expressed if we do not know how it can be expressed. I get to know this from “Relationships 101”, an article from TIME, shows that how love can be taught in classroom as a formal course, but in informal way! It is very interesting to know, right?

Really I thrilled by reading such an article about which I never think that love can be taught in classroom! This article is about relationship counseling. It also introduces the readers with a new idea of teaching about couple relationships which is run by Marline Pearson, who is a sociologist. She teaches it in a formal setup which is really a new initiative for those people who suffers “relationship problem”. In newspaper I often see that there is a column for advising people who face problem in their relationships. I read and think how much complex it can be to handle and keep a healthy and perfect relationship. In our personal life we also often have same kind of problems, but we do not know how we can overcome these problems without hurting anyone by going in a sensible way. If we know the tactics of managing smooth relationship it will be easier for us to handle it.

I know there is debate that love cannot be taught. Maybe it is true, but is it always true? If we do not see any person to love and care for us then how can we learn that what is “love”? It is probably ridiculous to think in that way expressing love can be taught in the classroom. However, if we do not know how we can perfectly express our loving feeling, so how can others know about our emotions? Do they ever realize we have “love” for them? I think Pearson’s course is very significant in that sense. There is no any smooth way to go through a relation. Often we encounter with several problems in the path of a relationship. It is more important to know how we express our love, how we can go through our problems, and how we can balance between emotion and reality in a relationship. Formal relationship counseling can give us the support to seek the answers of our questions, and make us to realize that, “Oh! Yes, love can be taught in a classroom!”

The Joy Luck Club

The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan is a very interesting novel. As we have finished reading the book, I want to write a short definition essay on this novel about what I learnt from this novel.

The Joy Luck Club is a novel which tells us the relationship between Chinese mothers and American daughters. It tells us that the mothers are very altruistic. They sacrificed many things for their family, but the daughters are very selfish.

The Joy Luck Club is a novel in which the writer has provided four different prologues. These prologues work as a guiding star to orient the readers and foreshadow the novel as signposts.

The Joy Luck Club is a novel, which tells us about Suyuan and her daughters. Suyuan was fleeing from Kweilin due to fear of Japanese invaders. As a result, she lost her twin daughters, her first husband, her family members, and her home in China. Later, in America, she wanted to find her two daughters and finally they were found, but after the death of their mother. Moreover, the book also shows Jing Mei’s dedication to her mother. Lastly, Jing Mei did her mother’s unfinished work. She found her two sisters, and in this way the story ended happily. From this story, we learnt that we should try to fulfill our parent’s dreams.

The Joy Luck Club is a novel, which teaches us to raise our voice and not to hide our tears. An-Mei and Ying-ying had taught her daughters to say clearly what they want, and not to hide anything.

The Joy Luck Club is a novel, which has many morals. It taught me to obey and respect my parents. If I don’t respect and obey them, I will lose their supports. For instance, Waverly lost her favor wind, the support of her mother. Consequently, she lost her quality of playing chess.

The Joy Luck Club is a novel, which teaches us to be an observant like Ying-ying. Ying-ying could perceive everything by looking at the evidence. For example, she had already seen that her husband would die, and it finally happened. We should also look at the subtle things so that we can take precautions.

The Joy Luck Club is a novel, which teaches us how to write an interesting novel. Amy Tan has used seven different points of view in the novel, and she connected different chapters elaborately. I wonder how she got this idea. After reading her novel, I concluded that she is a very talented writer. She encourages readers to write a novel in different points of view and connect different chapters together.

Love Is Learned

 

             There is a debate in our classroom- is love a learned phenomenon or natural phenomenon? Do we learn to love from our family, environment, or media, or it’s only a natural feeling? What do you think?

             Now, let’s discuss, love is learned or natural? My answer is –learned. A mother loves her child because from her environment she learns to love her own child. When an infant comes to her womb, she feels its touch in her body, and this feeling makes her to love her child. Now, my question is, are all mothers good mothers? There are thousands of mothers who abort their children; don’t they feel natural love for their unborn child?  They are compelled to abort their children because their circumstances do not favor them at that time, and they can’t feel love for the unborn child. Again, is the children’s love for their mothers’ is natural? What do you say about Jing-Mei and her mother’s love in the novel The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan? Jing-Mei didn’t feel any love for her mother when her mother was alive because she misinterpreted her mother’s behavior, and didn’t learn to love her. When she came to know about her mother’s story, she started to love her mother. Isn’t it learned?

              Let’s discuss about marital love. You love your husband because he is caring and sharing to you, and he also loves you for the same cause. Can you say that a husband’s love for his wife or a wife’s love for her husband is natural? If so, why does divorce happen? You are compelled to divorce your spouse when you find his or her character annoying. At that time, his or her behavior doesn’t teach you to love him.

            Moreover, why do you love your boyfriend or your best friend? The reason is that their loving attitudes teach you to love them in return. They teach you to open your eyes and hearts to feel the special feelings reserved inside of your heart. Personally, I didn’t learn romantic love from my family, and I don’t know how to make a relationship with a boyfriend. However, I feel love for an unknown and unseen man when I watch any romantic movie. I wish to have a boyfriend. Who teach me to feel such romanticism? Isn’t it the media?

           In conclusion, it’s clear that love is not natural; it’s a learned phenomenon, and  we learn to love some one from our family, environment, media, and social stereotypes.

Works Cited

Tan, Amy. The Joy Luck Club. New York: Ballantine Books, 1989. Print.

 

Bitter truth is difficult to express.

In The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan, Lindo Jong is afraid to reveal about Suyuan’s demise to Jing-mei’s long-lost sisters. Therefore, she presents the issue to the Joy Luck Club and carries out a discussion with Ying Ying and An-mei. They feel very bad when they reminiscence about Suyuan’s sudden death and her everlasting longing for her lost daughters. Finally, they decide to reply the daughters’ letter being Suyuan filling the letter with the fake hope of meeting their mother. However, later, Jing-mei compels Lindo Jong to write letter about the fact though it is bitter so that her half-sisters do not misunderstand her when they meet in Shanghai.

Similar to Lindo Jong and the Joy Luck Club, I too find very difficult to disclose bitter truths to others. For example, when I was in twelfth grade in high school, our first year’s result was out. As I used to stay in hostel, and I did not have internet facility at night, I did not know about the result. Later, my best friend called me to say me, “Congratulations!” I told her to look up for my hostel friends’ results too. I noted all my friends’ results down as she told me, and I was stuck on one of my very close friends’ result. Suddenly, my excitement descended. I told her her secured marks, but I was surprised to see her still in the mood of celebration. Later, I came to know that she had calculated her marks adding the practical marks for Chemistry with the theory marks and had thought that she passed in all the subjects. That was the very awful moment when I had to intrude on her joy. I did not have any idea how to tell her that bitter truth. Later, when we were getting ready to go to school, she came to my room for ironing her skirt, so I thought I had to tell her the truth before she directly got assailed by the reality. Therefore, with a great courage, I told her to subtract her practical mark from her total mark in Chemistry, and then she started crying. I could not help myself, so my eyes too were watery. I felt like I seized her happiness, but she had to overcome with that situation one way or the other.

Indeed, bitter truth is always very difficult to express.

Response to “Double Face”

     When I read the chapter “Double Face” of Joy Luck Club, written by Amy Tan, one thing came into my mind. Did Waverly really resemble her mother Lindo? In what way she did so? Physically or psychologically? I think after reading this chapter that Waverly resembled her mother physically than psychologically. People around them also found similarity between their faces. Lindo once suddenly noticed that there was a slight difference between their faces that Waverly owned a crooked nose by born, whereas Lindo had the crooked nose only after her accident. The crooked nose of her daughter made her upset as she believed that a crooked nose brought bad luck. The other thing is that there was an obvious mental difference between the Americanized daughter Waverly and the traditional Chinese mother Lindo. Lindo was upset that her daughter Waverly didn’t learn how to behave with parents and understand her own mother. It hurt Lindo when her daughter Waverly was talking with Mr. Rory as if she was not there, but Waverly did not understand it. On the other side, Lindo understood her mother very well. That’s why, when her mother treated her coldly, she didn’t mind. She understood that her mother was helpless in the society as she was a woman. Lindo could understand that her mother loved her very much, whereas Waverly did not understand her mother love. Moreover, she misunderstood that her mother just wanted to show her off, but in real her mother was just proud of her. We see in this chapter that though Lindo was always proud of her daughter, her daughter Waverly felt shame for her mother’s appearance which hurt Lindo so much. In addition, Waverly thought that one thing matched in their faces and that was their “devious face.” She also thought that it helped them to get what they wanted, but Lindo thought that she could not keep her double face in front of her own country people which meant Chinese People.

     I think that Lindo’s thought was right. When people has been lived in a foreign country for many years, their accent, behavior, gesture all becomes changed. That’s why, it is easy for the country people, which country they are from, to recognize whether those people are their people or not. In this case, the double face of a person doesn’t work.

Love Is Learned

                There is a debate in our classroom- is love a learned phenomenon or natural phenomenon? Do we learn to love from our family, environment, or media, or it’s only a natural feeling? What do you think?

               Now, let’s discuss, love is learned or natural? My answer is –learned. A mother loves her child because from her environment she learns to love her own child. When an infant comes to her womb, she feels its touch in her body, and this feeling makes her to love her child. Now, my question is, are all mothers good mothers? There are thousands of mothers who abort their children; don’t they feel natural love for their unborn child?  They are compelled to abort their children because their circumstances do not favor them at that time, and they can’t feel love for the unborn child. Again, is the children’s love for their mothers’ is natural? What do you say about Jing-Mei and her mother’s love in the novel The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan? Jing-Mei didn’t feel any love for her mother when her mother was alive because she misinterpreted her mother’s behavior, and didn’t learn to love her. When she came to know about her mother’s story, she started to love her mother. Isn’t it learned?

             Let’s discuss about marital love. You love your husband because he is caring and sharing to you, and he also loves you for the same cause. Can you say that a husband’s love for his wife or a wife’s love for her husband is natural? If so, why does divorce happen? You are compelled to divorce your spouse when you find his or her character annoying. At that time, his or her behavior doesn’t teach you to love him.

            Moreover, why do you love your boyfriend or your best friend? The reason is that their loving attitudes teach you to love them in return. They teach you to open your eyes and hearts to feel the special feelings reserved inside of your heart. Personally, I didn’t learn romantic love from my family, and I don’t know how to make a relationship with a boyfriend. However, I feel love for an unknown and unseen man when I watch any romantic movie. I wish to have a boyfriend. Who teach me to feel such romanticism? Isn’t it the media?

          In conclusion, it’s clear that love is not natural; it’s a learned phenomenon, and we learn love from our family, environment, media, and social stereotypes.

 

response to the joy luck club

            Could you imagine of being treated as a foreigner by your own family? The novel The Joy Luck Club leaves many ideas behind to the readers. It talks several aspects relating to America and china, among which the American and the Chinese culture are mainly focused. The cultural and the linguistic changes within a single family can bring dramatic changes among the relationship of own family members. First of all, we know that language is the main source of communication. Therefore, we can see that the language plays a marvelous role in relating both the mothers and the daughters in this novel. Since they talk different languages that cannot be understood by the other; they had great conflicts and misunderstandings among each other – the mothers with daughters and vice versa. If there languages had been the same, then most probably they would have behaved better than how they did. They would have had better interaction among them. The daughters could have understood their mothers well and the mothers could have well explained what they wanted to their daughters. They could have solved their problems without that much disagreement, I suppose. We could imagine how it would be for us if our mothers and we talk different languages without one understand the other. We can feel that we would lose our own cultural values and get adapted to another culture where we would be brought up. On the one hand, we can feel that we will be gradually losing our national and cultural identity. On the other hand, we will be treated as a foreigner by our own people. Sometimes we might feel uncomfortable to accept our own cultural values. So we can imagine the consequences of having different language from our mothers. In the novel, neither mothers wanted to admit their daughters’ American culture nor the daughters wanted to admit their mothers’ traditional Chinese culture. Basically, I suppose this is due to not understanding each other. And that is because of their difference in languages.

Love must be taught.

Before reading this article “Relationship 101,” published in Time Magazine in 2003, I have an indistinct concept that love cannot be taught oneself, and now I realize that love education is essential for all. Although love is natural, the expressions of love can be taught.

It is very difficult to define love in words. I think love is such a strong feeling that can be defined as deeply gentle, adoring affection for another person. It teaches everyone how to respect, how to keep promise, and belief, and how to communicate better each other.

I think love should be taught from our childhood in family, society, schools, and colleges. Students are not concerned about how to communicate better each other, how to set up love connections effectively and successfully, how to create good judgment of each other’s manners and individuality and how to succeed in love. In our day today life, we frequently notice that most of the people cannot save the marriage because of various conflicts in their marriage life. Most of them are particularly forced by the desire to keep away from the shocking divorce they observe their parents continue. That’s why I think love education can decrease the internal conflict among people.

As most of the students tend to begin dating in high school, it is the most proper time to start teaching the students about relationships at that time. By this time, what they plant in their mind, it will last longer in their future when they enter adulthood. They will be able to understand the better way of communication to each other. Adolescence is such a period which is very confusing and that time they are ignorant of the practical life and cannot easily identify themselves. Besides, they are naïve enough to understand what is right or wrong. Learning love relationship skills can lessen the possibility of embarrassment that the students face in their life. This lesson will enhance their self-reliance and changes the vagueness of connection to controllable skills. Not only schools but also parents should pay attention to improve love education from their childhood.

Queen Mother of The Western Sky

We finished reading The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan, a novel full of mythical stories, simile, metaphors, and symbols. If you understand these things, you can enjoy the novel literally. Therefore, I am going to explore the last parables of the novel, which help to understand the theme, climax, and character’s position in the next and final section.

In the parable “Queen Mother of Western the Sky” Amy Tan presents a short conversation between grandmother and her granddaughter. The old woman remembered about her life experience and belief, when she saw her granddaughter laughing without any reason. She said that she also had innocent and could laugh like the baby girl. As she grew up and started to realize that there was no value of innocence, she stopped laughing. Moreover, she gave the same lesson to her daughter. However, by watching the laughter of her grandchild, she understood that laughter is the symbol of hope and for a happy life human should laugh. Her hope is that, the baby will teach her hopeless mother that how to laugh forever.

The story signs that the mother could not have teach her daughter perfectly. She only believed on her on experiences and tried to teach her daughter. Now, her daughter is not happy, as she has no expectation from her life. Therefore, the mother will teach her daughter again that she should be hopeful. The mother always wants a better life for her daughter than her and thinks about her betterment. For example, in “Magpies”, we see that, An-mei told her daughter own life story for saying that if someone does not try to change his fate by utilizing opportunities, he should suffer in the long run. It is cowardly to curse own bad fortune, because it is happiness for others. Similarly, in “Waiting between the Wood”, Ying-Ying told her daughter about her struggle and sufferings in her life. As she did not give hope and observed everything, so deeply that she could manage her life again. It is her dream to give her sprit to her daughter Lena, so that she can be happy with her life.

The stories’ themes are similar to the parables. All mothers are trying to give their inner power to their daughters, as they do not want to see them unhappy. We can say that, if the parable was not presented, we cannot get the meanings, themes, and inner massages of the stories. Thus, we should realize the meaning of parables first. It is clear that Amy Tan wants to make understand the readers by using these parables.