Wrath

In the chapter “Wrath” of the autobiography of Vasant Moon, we get to know that Ambedkar and his followers somehow tried to oppose the Quit India movement against British headed by Mahatma Ghandi by telling Hindus to enter the British army, demanding an independent country, and many others (102).

I believe that Ambedkar and his followers were right to demand for their rights. They had right to fight for their position in society, but as soon as I read about their opposition to the Quit India movement, I felt that it was wrong time to fight for their position. I think it was the time when they need to be together so that they first could get freedom from British government. It was fortunate that they got freedom from the British government at that time. I think it was quite possible that British government could trick on their politics, and let them fight with each other rather than setting them free from their control. I am not a politician to interfere in the decision of great politicians, but I think they should have been together when Congress party was fighting for the freedom of India.

Some may think that if Ambedkar and his followers had accompanied Congress that time, they would not have gained their own country as Pakistan. It is true that they gained separate country in which they made their own policy. However, we can’t forget the terrible war between two countries which lasted for several years, some may believe that the war was certain even they had not demand for the separate country at that time, but I believe if they had worked together for certain period of time, they would have solved their problem through negotiation rather than breaking up into the war.

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Religious Hymns

Vasnt Moon in the chapter “Religious Hymns” of his autobiography Vasti talks about the process of change of Hindu religion to Buddhism and Muslim religions. From the chapter, some of us felt that the ways of Ambedkar and his followers regarding changing religions were not the right ways. They follow the way of violence, and force people to follow Buddhism and Muslim religions. However, I felt that it was necessary to bring out revolution in order to make big changes in social structure.

I respect the thoughts of people that everyone should have right to follow the religions according to their will, and people should not be forced to follow certain religions, but it was not only concerned with the rights of people to follow religions, it was concerned with their freedom. From the autobiography, it is clear that all the people of Nagpur were trying to bring out the equality among all castes, which was only possible by abolishing the caste system. Abolishing the caste system in the Hindu religion was not possible as the people of Nagpur believed that Hindu religion was the main cause of division of caste system. So, it was necessary to change Hindu religion to other religions like Buddhism and Muslim religions, which do not practices caste system.

Some people may also think that old people should not have been forced to leave the Hindu religion as they were emotionally attached to their religion, and all the young people were ready to change their religion. Hence, the minority of old people could not affect the entire plan of changing Hindu religion to Buddhism and Muslim religions. However, we cannot avoid the old generation because they are the one who shape the young generation. All the young people may not change their thoughts by the influence of old generation, but still there is probability that some can change their mind, and continue to follow the Hindu religion. So, I think it was necessary to call all people to change their religion for their own long-lasting benefits.

Furthermore, I think it is ok to slap a person if it can change the whole life of that person towards the positive way. We do not object whenever our parents scold or slap us though we may get furious at the instant time. We do not take it as a serious issue (except some exceptional cases), and take it as a positive thing since we believe that it was necessary to show us the right path. Similarly, Ambedkar and his followers were a kind of parents of Nagpur and entire India who were trying to make a big change for the right of low caste or untouchable people.

So, I think Ambedkar and his followers were right to call all people to change their religion though it was somehow forceful.

The Truth about Lying

I think any kind of lying is morally wrong and making excuses by categorizing lying as social lying, peace keeping lying, trust keeping lying, and protective lying does not make sense. People say that sometime lying can be considered as the best thing to do in order to make others happy, to prevent others from feeling embarrass, to prevent others from unexpected events like dying, and to maintain peace among people. People consider these lies as white lies, but what I think is that there is no existence of white lies. Lying in any circumstances cannot be considered as positive thing as these lies never benefit people. In contrast, they make condition more complicated and delicate.

People often say that we need to lie in order to make others happy. For example, people often say “you are looking awesome today” in order to make other person happy and gain positive response as reward. Some people may like positive responses while some may feel embarrass by these positive comments. In addition, it depends on a person how he or she takes fake comments. Some people think these fake comments as unnecessary buttering and dislike the person who uses these fake comments. So, I think it is better not to praise other through fake positive comments.

People often lie in order to prevent quarrels among people. I think it is not good to lie to settle quarrel among people since lying in order to settle quarrel sometimes may involve person who lies, and it may lead to a big fight. So, it is better to settle quarrel with truth so that it could be settled permanently without involving a third person.

People say that it is good to say “you look pretty with new dress” in spite of looking worst than ever when other person asked to comment on his or her dress. However, I think it is better to say truth rather than praising someone with false comment. It is better if a single person gives idea about his or her worst looking rather than he or she becomes a funny person among mass of people.

It is often said that it is okay to lie if it could save life of someone, but I think it is better to say truth since everyone has to face truth in any situation. If it is hidden today, it could reveal at any time and hurt that person more than ever. In addition, we all know that telling lies is not easy, it too hurts oneself.

So, I think lying can never be a positive thing, and it is not a good idea to make excuses for lying by saying “I lied for the sake of other happiness or comfort” since lying neither comforts a person who lies nor a person who listens someone lying.

The Anthropology of Manners

In the article “The Anthropology of Manners”, Edward T. Hall talks about the differences in time and proximity in various places. There is wide range of differences in conception of people of different places regarding the same manner. Sometimes, the concept of people of one place completely contradicts with the concept of other people of other place. For example, in Nepal, there are different concepts regarding the color of eyes, the habit of eating food, behavior with children, which may or may not valid to cultures of other places.

In Nepal, a child with blue colored eyes is considered as omen. It is said in Nepal that a person with blue colored eyes should not be trusted. They can betray people easily in any case. Especially, it is believed that women with blue colored eyes are more liable to cheat their husbands and family members. However, this concept is not valuable in western countries; in fact most of people in western countries possess blue eyes.

Similarly, in context of habit of eating, Newari people, one of the ethnic groups of Nepal believe that our plates should have some rice until we finish eating curry and other sweets. So, Newari people continuously serve rice to guests until they totally finish their curry and other sweets. This concept may not be valid to other cultures.

In a similar way, in Nepal, elders show love to their children by placing their hand on their children’s head. This behavior is especially termed as blessing. In contradictory, western people take this behavior as insult. They don’t want others to place hands on their head.

It is obvious that we can’t remember or know the culture of all places, and it is also certain that annoying behavior towards others’ culture make those people unpleasant. So, it is necessary to respect others’ point of view regarding manners keeping own view on own side at least after knowing the importance of these manners in their place. It will certainly help us to move ahead in our life being compatible with other members in society.

Death of a Salesman

In the drama “Death of a Salesman” written by Arthur Miller, we can see the silence role of Happy. The silence role doesn’t mean that Happy was introvert; I meant to say that Happy was indifferent to his family problems. Though he used to settle the quarrel between his father and brother (Willy and Biff) temporarily, he didn’t take these quarrels as serious issue even though he was informed by his mother that Willy was trying to kill himself because of his family problems. He never tried to settle the problem between Biff and Willy permanently. He never thought that he could also help his father to get out of his depression by helping him in economic condition. He kept himself far from his family concerns.

Happy was more concerned about his affairs with girls rather than his father. In one of the events of drama, Willy and Biff were having a quarrel in a restaurant, he rather moved away with girls taking Biff with him. He even didn’t think about his father. Maybe he did so to settle the quarrel between them, but I think there was a better way to do so. He could have been with his father and sent his brother home. It would have been better if he could have thought about his father before those girls. It shows that he was indifferent to his father’s difficulties. Similarly, at the end of the drama when his father drove away with a full speed, and his mother and Biff were worried about his father, he simply said Biff to go to sleep. He didn’t care even his father could die.

 Maybe it was his father default that his father could not give equal attention to his both sons during childhood. During childhood, Willy paid more attention towards Biff as he was good in school. Willy rarely paid attention towards Happy, maybe it was a reason that Happy learnt to make himself far from his family members’ problem. However, I think he had some duty towards his family. He was given less attention in childhood as he was moderate student while Biff was a good student. If he had a desire to be cared by his father, he could have proved himself.

Callousness and Clouds

The story “Callousness and Clouds” in the autobiography Vasti of Vasant Moon give us an idea that our family members, and wealth may not accompany us throughout our lives. We may have to live without them at anytime.

In the story, Vasant, the main character of the story had a troublesome life in the beginning of his life as his father was drunkard. His drunkard father used to beat his mother every evening. It continued until his mother called her father for help. Then, Vasant went to leave with his grandfather along with his mother and a little sister. After that, his life turned to be good. He was well treated in that new home. He was given well education, he started to leave among good people, and his mother also started to be happy. However, his happiness could not last for a long time. After his grandfather died, his so-called maternal uncle, Laxman suddenly appeared with his family and claimed for his grandfather’s property. Laxman and his family slowly started to torture them. After that his grandmother also died of illness. Laxman and his family took advantage of helplessness of his mother and forced them to live in a small room in the lane behind the house. In this way, Vasant passed through various events that caused him to leave his all the belongings day by day. First, he lost his father’s love, then his grandfather, and finally his grandmother along with his comfort life. (18-23)

This story is very often in our society. We can see many people who lose their property within a day. The reasons behind this may vary from person to person. Some may lose their property on business; some may lose their property because of habit of drinking alcohol and playing cards. However, it is often true that wealth rarely accompany us in our difficulties. In case of our relatives, it is a universal truth that everyone born on this earth must die and leave everyone behind. So, I sometimes think that is worthless to fight against with each other for property and other things in our lives as it is certain that all these things can leave us behind at anytime.

The Road Not Taken

As the speaker of the poem “The Road Not Taken” written by Robert Frost gets confused about choosing the right path for the rest of life, we also sometimes get into similar condition (1-4). As being human, we get lots of choices in our lives. The selection of right choice leads towards happiness, while the selection of wrong path leaves us with lots of problems. It is obvious that we human are not capable of visualizing the future effects of all kinds of our decisions, but we can surely get some knowledge from the experiences of our elders.

It is often said that teenage is the right age of taking the main decision of our life. In teenage, we get two options: one option leads towards our bright future, while the other destroys our whole life. It is often observed that the negative path lure teenagers quickly as it provides temporary happiness which last for few moments. For examples, in current situation, large numbers of teenagers use drugs which may temporary relieve them from their anxiety, but these drugs make them susceptible towards number of diseases and make them incapable of thinking about their future for the rest of the life. In contrast, the positive path is hard to follow as it requires lots of devotions. Though we need to work hard to follow the positive path, if we have strong desire to do something in our life, and be a successful people, we can easily get into the right path. For that we should always follow the positive path as shown by our parents. Parents always show the right path to their children. So, we should never doubt on suggestions of our parent and follow them so that we never fail to choose the right path in our life, and suffer throughout the life.

Effectual role of death Suyuan

In the story The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan, Suyuan seemed to have effective role in spite of her death from the beginning of the story. Her daughter spoke for her and it gave clear view of her life as effectively as other mothers did who spoke for their own story. In fact, after watching the movie The Joy Luck Club, I found that the death of Suyuan made this story more effective and more interesting. In the beginning of film, I felt sorry for Jing Mei as she was the only person to be alone without her mother while taking photograph; rest of other daughters were with their mothers and were busy in preparing each other for the photograph. In the other side, Jing Mei was standing alone and she seemed to be sad in absence of her mother, but in the process of travelling of Jing Mei to China and at the time of meeting her step sisters, I felt as it was better that Jing Mei met those lost two twins sisters instead of Suyuan. If Amy Tan had chosen Suyuan to be a person to meet those lost babies, Jing Mei would not realize her mother’s feeling. May be Jing Mei would never understand her mother as her mother would be busy in searching her step sisters and she would not get a chance to have sufficient time to spend with her mother. As a result of which, Jing Mei would not get a chance to know her mother.

In addition, if Suyuan was to be person to meet those babies, I would not have been as curious as I had been for Jing Mei. I was curious whether Jing Mei would be accepted by her step sisters or not. It was obvious in case of Suyuan that she would be accepted by her daughters as they were part of her and they were told about her mother from their childhood. Furthermore, the death of Suyuan was indirect cause of returning of Jing Mei to China as she wanted to visit China to meet those sisters and fulfill her mother’s wish to get those sisters back. So, I found the death of Suyuan more effective from various aspects in this story.

Love???

After reading “Talk in the Intimate Relationship: His and Hers”, I started to think whether love is a learned phenomenon or it evolves by itself and the answer what I get is that love can never be taught; it’s a natural feeling that evolved by itself.

Children never learn to love their parents as well parents also never learn to love their children. As soon as a child born, parents start to love their children. None come and teach them that they should love their child and take care of their child. Similarly as a child grows and recognizes own parents, he or she starts to love them; none come and teach him or her to love his or her parents. Similarly, in case of romantic love, love arises by itself. A person never plans or learns that he or she will love a definite person. When a person fall in love, he or she even do not realize that he or she is in love with someone else until he or she feels a sense of losing a loved one. It’s same in case of brothers and sisters. Brothers and sisters never learn to love each other, but they love one another despite of daily quarrel and fights. They know how to protect each other from scolds of parents. They too know how to protect each other from their enemies. Especially in case of elder brother and younger sister, it is often seen that elder brother mostly protects younger sister from adverse effects of boys with immoral activities like mistreating and teaching girls. Similarly, it is often observed that a sister mostly follow her brother. The lesson that a brother should always protect a sister from evil eyes of such kind of boys with immoral activities and a sister should obey a brother is not taught to them. They learn these things by themselves in a form of love. So, love is not taught rather it grows by itself whenever it is required or whenever time comes.

Magpies

After reading “Magpies”, I truly came to realize the giving nature of mothers. They can do anything for their children; they can even give their own life in order to make their children’ life better. Similarly, in “Magpies”, An-Mei’s mother always wanted An-Mei to be in better place though she was discarded from her own house for being concubine of rich merchant Wu Tsing, after the death of her first husband. So firstly, she brought An-Mei to Wu Tsing’s house from her brother’s house, so that An-Mei could not have to suffer from narrow traditional concepts, which were the most valuable things for her brother and mother. After that also, she could not find the better place in Wu Tsing’s house due to her disrespectful position of concubine, so that she decided to give up her life. Wu Tsing used to greatly believe in ghost and the dangers, ghost can cause if the requirements of that ghost is not fulfilled and An-Mei’s mother was well-known that Wu Tsing knew her only one wish, that is her daughter’s prosperous life. So, she sacrificed her own life to provide the better life to An-Mei.

In similar way, our parents also give their best in order to provide us the best life. Since our birth, our parents always try to provide us the best things in our life. It may be the best food, the best dress, the best toys, the best school uniform, the best education and all the best things that are required in our life. Actually, our parents spent their whole life in order to make our life best. Similarly, my parents have always given the best things in my life, the best school, the best college and now the best university in spite of many troubles and financial crisis. My parents have always done their best to provide me and my brothers with the best education so that we can be successful person in our life and stand on our own feet. So, I always proudly say that my parents are the best parents.