Relationships

True love…true love…true love…Is there such a thing called true love? The reason why I am asking this question is that through what i observe around me, I can see that there are many husbands and wives getting divorced and many boyfriends and girlfriends breaking up. Why does it happen?

Well, most people have the illusion of perfect love based on the ideas depicted in the fairy tales and movies with happy endings. For instance, the story of Romeo and Juliet is widely considered as the epitome of true love. Usually, the love portrayed in movies and fairy tales are idealistic. However, from my point of view, I feel that being humans, desiring for such kind of love is just desire that can’t be achieved. Everybody yearns for the intimate affection that someone can give them. Women dream of their Prince Charming to come and ask for her hand, whereas men always search for the love of their life. However, staying together always results into some misunderstandings. And a person has to work hard to solve the misunderstanding or their love would disappear in the air. Most people seems to say the three words “I Love You” but when it comes to problems, many of them appears to be too ignorant and let their love diminish. Can this be true love? Why can’t those people think carefully and realize the value of their shared love? Can they simply let it to happen? In this way, I feel this isn’t true love. If you really love someone, you can’t imagine of leaving that person no matter what happens between them. They should try their best to overcome every conflict to sustain their relationship. Also, from my perspective, I think true love is when someone loves you for what you are, not for what you have or possess. Seriously speaking, I don’t like when people expresses love in a romantic poetries. I always find some faults behind it. Moreover, it sounds very corny and banal and I don’t consider it as true love. For instance, in the chapter “Waiting between the trees” of the novel The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan, Ying Ying’s husband expresses his love in a very romantic poetry which made her love him so deeply. He said, “You have tiger eyes. They gather fire in the day. At night they shine golden.”(280) However, she was betrayed and he left her with his child implanted in her womb. Therefore, I would say that true love is something that is very rare to exist in this realistic world.

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One Response to Relationships

  1. ztandee says:

    Hello Denkar!
    Nicely said about true love being fake. However, i think it depends upon individual. If one is true to themselves and is very honest with themselves, he or she maybe able to find true love. It doesn’t always have to be happy endings and prince charming, love comes in different forms. Love is something that occur naturally. The movies and the advertisements do give love in different level, but if one is aware of what is happening, love won’t end terribly for them. So trust yourself first and step into the world of love:)

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