Without Wood

After reading, “Without Wood”, I was surprised to know that husband and wife needs to keep the record of the payment of bills of basic requirements of home so that they could divide the payment among themselves. Maybe I belong to eastern culture so I was surprised to hear that, and maybe it is common in western society, but I totally disagree with the idea that a couple should keep the record of expenses so that they could divide the payment among themselves.
Whenever I see a couple, I visualized that they are the one who share each and everything, from great qualities and capacities to the worst disabilities, from the top most revealed things to the top most secrets, from the most attractive thing to the most irritating thing. I have never thought that a couple has to divide anything between them. I think when there requires the distribution of anything in the relation that relation no long lies as the relation of husband and wife. The same condition repeated in the story between Rose and Ted when they continued to have the division of payment among themselves.
I have learnt or made this concept from the relation of my parents. My parents have never divided the payment regarding basic needs of home. It’s true that they sometime quarrel with each other, but the best part is that, when my mother gets angry, my father never gets angry. He just smiles at my mother no matter what my mother goes on saying in anger. After few hours, when my mother becomes calm, my father use to consult about the issues of quarrel. This is same with my mother when my father gets angry. This is the best part I have learnt from my parents. In my home, my mother and father use to collect all the money in same place and use whenever we required. My father and mother never develop the sense of my money and yours money. So, I think this is the thing that has bound my parents together from a long time and will be binding them together forever. Similarly, if Rose and Ted had shared their incomes and expenses with each other, their relation would not have turned out.

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One Response to Without Wood

  1. ansadhikari says:

    Hey Shrijana,
    Nice to hear about your parents’ way of dealing things with their payments. As I am also from Nepal, I know how Nepalese husband and wife contribute with the money to live a happy life. However, my parents do not do in the same way. My mom is a housewife and she doesn’t earn money like my father, but she is the houseowner to tenants of our house. The house rent which she receives every month is regarded as her salary in my house. As each one of my parents earn money in their own way, they have decided to buy their own needs without asking the other for the money. However, money for the vey basic needs and other important work is contributed by both of them. My mom and dad have just made this kind of “rule” to share and live together a happy life without frequent tension of money. Therefore, I think dividing money to fulfil their own needs is also a good way to avoid financial tension, but it should not be as severe as Rose and Ted.
    With regards,
    Anshu.

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