Can you change your destiny?

                  Reading the chapter “Rice Husband,” I was impressed by the proverbs: “If the lips are gone, the teeth will be cold,” or “One thing is always the result of another.” Through the story, the proverb seemed to be a shadow following Lena’s entire life. Because of rice left on her bowl, her mother made up the story of her malicious husband. Because of her belief in her mean husband, she hated Arnold. Because of her hatred to him, she killed him in her intention, and she felt remorse of his death. Because of Arnold’s death, Lena “deserved” Harold. Everything seemed to be arranged first, and Lena did not do anything to stop them.  A lot of questions appeared in my mind, while I was reading the chapter, “Rice Husband.” Why did her mother put the vase on the top of the table although she knew it would be broken? Could her mother do anything to stop bad things affected their family, but she refused to do? Did her mother and she believe in fate, so they let bad things happen? Why did not Lena obey her mother’s advice even though she had realized her mother’s power of prediction? Why did not Lena get indignant with her husband because actually she did not know what she wanted after the conflict? Did Lena and her mother have the same power of prediction because at the end of the chapter, Lena told her mother that she knew the table would be broken? To find the answers of above questions, I think that we should compare the chapter with our own lives. We all have seen bad things happening to our beloved people many times, but we have not done anything to stop them. An overt instance appeared in the chapter “Half and Half,” when Rose Hsu only stood to see her brother, Bing reaching to his “destiny”, his death. Another example is that when seeing our mother suffering from assailing of cancer, we also cannot do anything to help her. Also, witnessing our father’s lungs are being eroded by alcohol and drug, we cannot do anything to stop him except talking about dangers of drinking alcohol and smoking. However, how many percentages are we sure that he will listen to our advice? Moreover, what can we do to rescue our friends from the crack of dropping out more than giving them advice and informing their situations to their responsible people? However, if they are so obstinate to be altered, could we coerce them into studying? No, we cannot do anything to stop dangers from our beloved ones. These dangers are their destinies or fate. However, “something is better than nothing,” we can at least help people to be aware of these consequences. Let’s them understand that death is destiny, but we can choose to die beautifully.


2 Responses to Can you change your destiny?

  1. ztandee says:

    Hey Tram,
    You are right, “the dangers might be their destinies,” but are you really sure about your last sentence. Can we really choose to die beautifully? I mean “death” is something that happens so suddenly. It is not planned, it just happens, let it be in a beautiful way or tragic way. I think we do not always have the opportunity to do that, choose to die beautifully. Nobody gets the chance to say, “Tomorrow i am going to die.” They just die from a disease or maybe accident. Even suicide. I think it is impossible for us to choose how to die.

    I really enjoyed reading your blog, interesting. People are obstinate, we have many characteristics. However, if we try a little harder we might be successful in changing them.

  2. phamtram says:

    Let’s endeavor our best to do everything so that we will never feel remorse. That whatt i meant about a beautiful death.

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